entering the motherhood world

it's been months since my last update. been very-very-very busy lately. tired from school, bacn and forth from keningau to tenom.. i wish our pengesahan jawatan will approved soon so that i can apply for transfer back to keningau by next year.

a good news had broken my fear.. i'm pregnant by 7 weeks and 2 days (as the nurse helped me to calculate). hubby and i were very excited, happy and nervous at the same time. by next year, we'll become a mother and father to our child, and i think this is the most wonderful experience of our life..

today, hubby accompanied me to hospital for check-up. he was waiting for me patiently, and willingly to skip his work today just to be with me so that he wont miss anything. doctor advised me to have enough rest, avoid long journey and doing hard works.

have to stop by now. will update again when i'm free.. good night ;)

my hubby's collection

in case of emergency or too broke to go out for a drink *winks*
he won't get mad. as long as his beloved cordon blue martell is still there.
i'll just take the baileys mint choc..

My New Life

Life is so unpredictable.

I've been telling myself over and over again that everything that happened must have a reason. For the past years, i've been through all the ups and downs in life. I believe not only me, but everyone experienced what we call the 'roller-coaster' that happened in our life.

I'm now a wife. Carrying this title is not easy as i have bigger responsibilities now. But being a part of this new life makes me so excited. I hope that God will always bless our marriage, and with all my witness who witnessed our exchanged vows yesterday, i hope their prayers will make our love stronger everyday.

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Anger Management

My hubby used to tell me to control my temper. The fact that i always gets upset and angry over small things and will drag it till i feel satisfied after i let it out - only to do it in the wrong way.

Whenever i get angry and there's something that irritates me (especially when i feel cheated!) my heart beat goes very fast and feels like it'll explode inside me unless i take it out to who-ever i can, and usually my hubby gets the heat.

I feel sorry for him, cause he have to be patient facing my temper... but i feel very lucky to have him in my life. A very understanding person, and most of all, patient enough to handle me.. but i don't know till when can he handle it?

I tried my very best not to be angry over small matters. I've been searching for some tips and clues on how to control bad tempers.. I googled here and there, some from Dr. Phil which i feel like it doesn't work on me. After few hours of searching, i found an article that is very interesting for me to read (and apply!)

4 Steps to Control Temper.

Many of us at times have been upset. Being upset is a part of life. Not all things will go the way you want them to go. When this upset turns to anger we must be careful how we handle ourselves.

Here are 4 steps to control your anger and have it vent in proper ways.

1. Count to 10 when you are getting upset. This is a normal way that we have all heard. We have heard it because it works if you practice it. Count to 10 and you may solve many of your outbursts before they happen.

2. Do something that is physically exerting. Instead of punching a wall or a person, go run around the house, or mow the yard. Go for a walk, swim, bikeride, or shoot some hoops. This can provide a physical outlet for your emotions.

3. Find something that is calming. Try deep breathing from your diaphragm. Take 10 deep calming breaths. This can be very soothing for most people. Combine this with step 1 and count to 10 slowly while breathing.

4. Use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. I am frustrated because you didn't help with the housework, instead of You didn't help me with the housework. This helps in multiple ways one is your way of thinking is a bit better and you also do not upset the other person so that both parties are angry. Which of course is not a good outcome for anyone.

You can combine multiple steps above to help alleviate anger. Don't hold it in, but don't blow up. Calm yourself down and talk about it by using step number 4 above. Go for a swim or a nice shower, and you can alleviate the stresses that cause unhealthy anger.

I hope this time i can really change. It's depends on how strong i am to handle myself, and the rest.. i leave it to God for his guidance. Amen~

Wife or Girlfriend

Some people say :
Wife is a HARIMAU (Tiger)
Girlfriend is HARI HARI MAU (Like to have it everyday)

And some say:
Wife is like TV, Girlfriend is like Handphone (HP)
At home watch TV, Go out bring HP.
No money, sell TV. Got money change HP.
Sometimes enjoy TV but most of the time play with HP.
TV free for life but HP, if you don't pay, the services will be terminated.
TV is big, bulky and most of the time old but HP is cute, slim, curvy and portable at any time.
Operational cost for TV is often acceptable but for HP is high and often demanding.
Most important, TV got remote but HP doesn't have.

Last but not least........
TV do not have virus but HP have VIRUS......
Once get it, HABIS LAH (Finish-gone case).

So better choose TV lah!